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That Helen Twinkle

SARA BOYLES
Dear Friends,

I saw Helen (Gough) on Monday. She was radiant, but a little weary. Visiting takes energy as well as giving it. We talked about the “TeamHelen” meeting on Sunday and I was remarking on my observation that we all want to gather around her, to participate in this last time with her, to “soak her up” so to speak. I reported on our delight in her being herself - wanting to share her visitors and her Anglican eucharist with those in her retirement home who wish it, and to provide light for those who seem deprived of it. She is delighted and embarrassed by the outpouring of love coming her way.

This is a continuation of Helen providing pastoral care, something she has been quietly doing these last several years. She often visited those who are simply names to the rest of us or those names we don’t recognize. Helen was one who not only participated in our ministry at The Laughlen Centre but became a favourite visitor to those most in need. She responded to an invitation from me to visit a Toronto Hospice client, a woman she didn’t know, and she became a stable and steady influence for the whole family. She always called when she thought it was time for me to pay a call or there was something she thought I should know. Helen sent cards, pictures and thoughtful notes as well. Once Helen had agreed to be a visitor, I could count on a rich and full ministry developing.

As we talked Helen said that she receives many wonderful visits but is always aware of those who receive few. She hopes, and I quote, “that someone will visit for me. I’d be so grateful to them.” She went on to say,” I sometimes wondered if I hogged the job. It’s about being them part of all of us. Visiting them is visiting me.”

We have several dedicated visitors here in the parish and I am very grateful to them and the Congregational Care Team. Some take communion to those unable to get out, others drop off bulletins (yes, there are people not on the internet) some do very practical things. All build up the body. If you are feeling under used in this way, let me know. It is important that those unable to get out (and those who struggle to get out) don’t feel abandoned by their parish when I leave. In a couple of case, some joint visiting, beginning soon, would be in order.

Lastly, and back to Helen, we need to remember that Helen has many friends beyond the parish. Perhaps we can love her by helping her arrange some visits from them. She said with the Helen twinkle, “We can be a little possessive you know!”

Love,
Sara

November 30, 1999